It’s all to common to see stories in the news where people (majority women) have been victims of having their nude photos or videos posted online or sent to others without their permission!
It has happened to celebrities like Blac Chyna, Jennifer Lawrence, Kim Kardashian, etc.
It also has happened to many Canadian young women where some have felt pressured, or some were taken advantage of and when their peers are supposed to stand behind them and tell the perpetrators that is unacceptable, many fail to do that and instead call them sluts, whores, or said they were asking for it.
Which ultimately lead to their suicide!
Under the Criminal Code of Canada it states:
162.1 (1) Everyone who knowingly publishes, distributes, transmits, sells, makes available or advertises an intimate image of a person knowing that the person depicted in the image did not give their consent to that conduct, or being reckless as to whether or not that person gave their consent to that conduct, is guilty.
What do they classify as an intimate image?
(2) In this section, intimate image means a visual recording of a person made by any means including a photographic, film or video recording,
(a) in which the person is nude, is exposing his or her genital organs or anal region or her breasts or is engaged in explicit sexual activity;
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So if it is against the law, why when it happens are we so quick to say things like “it’s your own fault” or “don’t take them if you don’t want them posted or shared”?
Heres what it ultimately comes down to – if I want to post my nude photos on the internet, or send them to multiple men – I’m allowed!
If you post my nude photos online or send them to mulitple people without my permission it is a criminal offence.
It’s my body, it’s my property, therefore my choice, not yours!
Just this week it was reported by CTV Atlantic News that on Wednesday
“a judge handed conditional discharges to six young men who had shared 19 girls’ images on Dropbox without consent.”
In particular it was reported that a mother of one of the victims heard coworkers talking about the girls
“calling the girls ‘sluts’ and ‘whores’ and listening to comments such as ‘What kind of parents are they, to have their daughters involved in such a thing?”
(Full article: CLICK HERE)
What we need to do is educate ourselves and our children to know that sex is a healthy thing – but it is not acceptable to share intimate photos of another person without their consent.
Sexting has been mainstream for awhile. If your child has a cellphone and Snapchat they most likely have talked to a guy/girl they liked and have sent or asked for intimate photos.
When we blame the victim we normalize the behaviours of the perpetrator(s) – and those behaviours should not be tolerated.
Stop and think about it this way:
If you leave your doors unlocked at home are you asking to be murdered in your sleep?
If you leave your keys in your car are you asking for it to be stolen?
If you leave your children with a babysitter and they abused them, did you ask for that too?
The answer is no!
You trusted that those situations would not happen and the victims trusted their perpetrator(s) that same way!
Whatever reasons the victims choose to share their nude photos or videos is their own. Some do it out of pressure, some want attention from a guy/girl they like, some do it simply because they want to have sex.
Regardless of the reasoning, the fact is they trusted that person not to violate their rights!
Yet in turn the ones sharing these videos/photos are taking advantage of the situation and are breaking the law.
Even if the victims have posted sexually explicit photos of themselves online before it still does not make it okay!
STOP allowing the victims to be embarrassed, humiliated, harassed, and degraded.
Amanda Todd wasn’t asking for it when an individual blackmailed her with threats of providing topless photo of her to her friends unless she gave him a “show”!
Rehtaeh Parsons wasn’t asking for it at the age of 15 when allegedly she went with a friend to a home in which she was reportedly raped by four teenage boys. The incident was photographed and the photo became widespread in Parsons’ school and town in three days!
No one wants to endure the humiliation, the harassment, etc.
Regardless of the situation, if you don’t have someones permission to post or share it – it’s against the law.
Stop the bullshit “boys will be boys” way of thinking! When you say that your saying its okay if men degrade women – it’s disgusting!
There is nothing about these situations that would ever make it okay!
The victims are not at blame for the ignorant, uneducated, oversexual mind(s) of the perpetrator(s)!